Have you ever felt like everything is falling apart? Everything that could go wrong is going wrong? Your money is funny, relationship issues, family or romantic drama, your health is declining, and it feels like you're constantly putting out a fire—it’s never-ending.

Lately, I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed. So many moving parts in my life, and my brain was constantly racing, trying to figure out the next thing I needed to do. That’s when it hit me:

"Worrying is like worshipping the problem."

I realized I wasn’t giving myself permission to just be.

But here’s the truth I had to remind myself:

You WILL be rewarded for the work you put in, trust me.

Transformation happens when you embrace where you are right now, not just where you're trying to go.

Transformation Starts by Embracing the Present

*My transformation journey make me so emotional. I’ve come along way. September 2021 and September 2024.*

Your outer glow is just a reflection of the inner glow and healing.

Look, I’m all about growth and transformation. But it’s not just about looking good on the outside—it’s about feeling amazing inside. The real shift happens when you stop stressing about the future and start appreciating where you are right now.

When I talk about transformation, I’m not just talking about makeup tips or beauty routines (though we love those– Check out THUTO LABS to transform your beauty routine; yes that was a small plug)

It’s about shifting your mindset, dropping limiting beliefs, and making sure your mental and physical health is on point.

Your Unwanted Invitation To Grow: 5 Stages of Transformation

You know those moments when life throws you into something you didn’t sign up for?

I can relate, trust me: being married for 2-weeks and filing for divorce was not on my bingo card. OK!

Yeah, when stuff like this happens, that’s your unwanted invitation to grow. Let’s talk about how to identify the 5 stages of transformation—how to deal when shyt hits the fan, build confidence, and turn those tough moments into fuel for a more abundant life.

Ready to level up?

Stage I: Shyt Pops Off – Embracing Change Unlocks New Opportunities

Challenges are part of life, but they’re also where growth happens. When life throws you a curveball, it’s actually an invitation to evolve and open new doors.

Filing for divorce after being married for 2-weeks wasn’t easy, but it was the first step toward rebuilding my life with intention.

Change hurts, I experienced a pain so deep

but it’s the necessary push toward growth.

I said “Yes To the Dress” and “Hell Nah” to the marriage 2-weeks later

Stage II: Ditch the BS – Breaking Limiting Beliefs Creates Space for Abundance

Letting go of self-doubt and limiting beliefs is like clearing space in your life for abundance to flow in.

Because of the heartbreak, I believed I wasn’t pretty enough or it would be too difficult to start over. I wasn’t just grieving a former life but a future that I had deeply attached to.

Those limiting beliefs weighed me down until I made the choice to let go of the baggage. When I started dating again, it wasn’t about finding someone else—it was about finding myself.

*Don’t get me wrong, I was cute, but no beauty filter could hide the pain*

Stage III: Be Real – Authenticity Attracts Abundance

When you’re true to yourself, the world responds. Living authentically attracts the right people, opportunities, and experiences.

I’m a very private person, so sharing my personal story online scared me to death, but I knew I couldn’t let fear of judgment control me anymore.

Once I started being real about my journey, the right people and opportunities began to align with who I was becoming.

Stage IV: When You Know, You Go – Confidence Fuels Action

Confidence doesn’t just show up—you build it by taking bold steps. And the more confidence you have, the more action you’re willing to take.

When I booked a solo trip to South Africa, decided to go through fertility treatments to freeze my eggs, and skydived in 2023 those were some of the boldest moves I’d ever made.

But confidence didn’t come first—it grew with every action

I took to reclaim my story and shape my future.

Stage V: Inner Growth, Outer Glow – Internal Growth Fuels External Success

Real success starts from within. As you grow emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, it reflects in your outer world, leading to long-lasting success.

When I started focusing on my inner growth—healing emotionally, getting grounded spiritually, and taking care of my mental health—that’s when everything else started to thrive.

My community grew to over 155K, my business blossomed, and my life began to glow from the inside out. My family also welcomed a new member, and I am the proud Godmommy to baby Shilo.

Document your transformation! I promise you may not notice the subtle changes daily but you look at a photo and one day say….

“Zaamn girl you’ve transformed!”

5 Habits That Will Transform Your Life

Let’s get into some habits you can start right now to nurture your transformation—mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Affirmations From Your Phone
Here’s a fun tip: You can set your phone’s accessibility features to give you daily affirmations! Every time you plug it in to charge, have it say something positive like “I am grateful” or “I attract all good things.” I do this, and it’s a great way to inject a little positivity into my daily routine.

Here’s a tutorial on How to Set a Custom Charging Sound for iOS 16

Remember the tv show ‘Being Mary Jane’? The affirmation sticky note queen!

2. Slow Mornings & Reset Days

One of the best things I do for myself is take it slow. Sundays are my reset days. I soak up the sun (seriously, it’s like magic), have a chill morning, maybe journal a bit, and just let myself be. Give yourself one day a week or even 10 mins to breathe and recharge. You deserve it.

3. Gentle Alarms

Stop letting your alarm be the enemy. If you wake up feeling attacked by a loud alarm, it throws off your whole day. Choose something soft and gentle to
start your day on the right note.

I love starting my day with these instrumental sounds:

Morning Hue by Deep Inside

Secrets by Astron

For more lyrical affirmations, you might like:

And I breathe… by Brooklyne b.

Go for Gold (The Outro) by Alex Isley

4. Protein Shakes with Creatine Supplement

This one’s a little science-y, but stick with me—it’s worth it. Creatine Monohydrate isn’t just for muscle definition; it also helps with mental clarity and energy. It’s been a game-changer for me, especially when I need that extra boost throughout the day.

But here’s the important part: you MUST drink plenty of water when taking creatine. If you’re not already great at staying hydrated, then skip this tip for now and just focus on drinking more water.

My favorite blender to super cute and powerful is the Beast Blender

*My faithful* *Beast Blender* *with 5g of creatine to my protein shakes.*

Tip: A good rule of thumb is to drink one ounce of water for every pound you weigh. So if you weigh 150 lbs, aim for 150 ounces of water a day.

5. Physical Movement—Consistency Is Key

Your body holds onto stress, so moving it helps clear that out. Whether you’re a gym person or prefer at-home workouts, find something that gets you moving.

Tip: I love the ALIVE App—it has everything from beginner-friendly routines to advanced workouts, and it’s a total game-changer if the gym makes you feel a little nervous.

The Power of Transformation

As you move through these stages of transformation, remember—it all starts with you. When you grow from the inside, everything else falls into place. Don’t rush to the next thing. Embrace where you are right now because this version of you is worth celebrating.

Transformation is the key to living a full life. I’m on this journey too, and I’m here to help you every step of the way. Start by making space for your wellness, and watch your life change from the inside out.

QUOTE OF THE WEEK

“You WILL be rewarded for the work you put in, trust me.” Mel Ribbons

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